*LESSONS FROM A CHANCE MEETING*
The sun's early morning rays cast a warm glow over the bustling Redemption City in Mowe, signaling the start of another day of worship and fellowship at the annual Convention. As I walked through the crowds, I felt invigorated after my morning prayer walk, and I decided to visit my siblings who were also attending the Convention.
After checking in on my sister and dad, I headed to the apartment where my younger brother was staying with a friend. As I arrived at the parking lot, I was surprised to see my former Pastor, Pastor Bankole Onabanjo, sitting in his car with his daughter, Mayowa. The poor phone signal at the Redemption City was making it difficult for him to make a call. We exchanged brief pleasantries, and I promised to catch up with him later.
As I was about to leave, I asked to see Pastor (Mrs.) Onabanjo, and Mayowa offered to take me to their lodge. As we walked, I asked Mayowa about school, assuming she was still an undergraduate. _"How's school?"_ I asked, expecting a routine response. But instead, the entire family burst out laughing, and Mayowa's face lit up with a wry smile.
I was taken aback, feeling embarrassed and wondering if I had said something funny. It was then that they broke the news to me: Mayowa was actually pursuing her PhD in Europe, having already completed her Master's degree. I was stunned, feeling like I had been living under a rock. How could I have been so out of touch with the progress of someone I had known for so long?
As I reflected on this encounter, I realized that it held valuable lessons for me. Firstly, it taught me the importance of not judging people based on my past experiences with them. Mayowa was no longer the young girl I had known years ago; she had grown and evolved, achieving great things. I needed to update my perception of her and recognize her newfound accomplishments.
Secondly, this encounter highlighted the danger of assumptions. I had assumed Mayowa was still that cute, adorable little girl that used to run around the church in her ever-gleeful mood, without bothering to ask or find out more. This assumption had led to my embarrassment and surprise. It was a humbling reminder to always ask questions and seek clarification, rather than relying on assumptions.
Thirdly, this experience reminded me of the importance of staying connected with others and celebrating their successes. I had lost touch with Mayowa's progress, and it took a chance meeting to bring me up to speed. I realized that I needed to make a conscious effort to stay in touch with friends and acquaintances, and to rejoice in their achievements.
Lastly, this encounter reminded me that people grow and evolve over time. The saying that the _"young shall grow"_ is indeed true. As everyday passes, we are all growing and changing in various ways. This realization should inspire us to be more understanding, patient, and supportive of one another.
As I left the Onabanjos' lodge, I felt grateful for the encounter and the lessons it had taught me. It was a reminder that life is full of growth, surprises, and new experiences. As the Apostle of Joy, I am reminded that joy is not just a feeling, but a choice. Let us choose to rejoice in the growth and successes of others, and to stay connected with them along the way.
May we always be willing to learn, adapt, and grow. May we never assume we know someone or something, but instead, always ask questions and seek clarification. And may we always choose to rejoice in the successes of others, even as we celebrate our own.
*© January 28, 2025*
*Pastor Emmanuel Obu*
*The Apostle of Joy*
